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BDSM is on everyone’s lips! More and more couples are interested in erotic bondage games. Bondage goes beyond shackling with classic handcuffs. The fantasy of giving yourself completely to your partner with body and mind and getting to know new sex positions is something that many people can’t let go of. But where do you start when you venture into the new realm of bondage sex? What sex toys and ropes are needed to immobilize and intensely stimulate your partner? – In this article we clarify all the questions that beginners ask themselves before purchasing BDSM restraints. We also present toys and ropes for advanced users.

BDSM – an attractive sexual practice

Wicked and mysterious – erotic restraints have their appeal and have long been an integral part of the BDSM scene! Giving yourself completely to your partner and no longer having control over sex is a very special experience. In the tied state, the passive partner must trust the active partner completely – communication is therefore an important part of this practice. BDSM and SM lovers love the thrill and the feeling of being able to relinquish control or take control entirely. Bondage takes away the pressure of always having to perform at your best during lovemaking. That’s why it’s a sex practice that not only inspires fetish lovers! How far everyone goes with SM or BDSM bondage sex depends entirely on experience and preferences. Some just want to give up control and get to know a new kind of stimulation, others want to try new sex positions with the help of ropes and fetish lovers rely on the delightful role play between dom and sub, in which things also get harder!

BDSM restraints for beginners

There are countless versions of BDSM restraints and sex toys for bondage on the market. As a beginner, it’s not that easy to keep track of things. We explain to you which toys are best for getting started:

The classics: handcuffs and ankle cuffs

Handcuffs and ankle cuffs remain the classic bondage games. They are easy to use, well padded and can also be tied to the bedpost – they are perfect for beginners who first have to get used to the “feeling of being at the mercy”. They are part of the standard repertoire for erotic bondage. Handcuffs and ankle cuffs are available in different versions. They are made of a soft material such as fabric or leather and close with either a padlock or Velcro. They are tighter than the handcuffs. Which variant you choose is purely a matter of taste. If you’re not quite sure of what you’re doing, I recommend a set from the Bad Kitty series. They offer different bondage sets depending on taste. Take a look around!

Bondage ropes: which is the right rope?

Classic handcuffs such as handcuffs lose their appeal a little when you see in pictures and videos how lustfully the partner could be tied up with a bondage rope. With a rope you reach a completely different “bondage level” – ropes accompany you from the beginning and, thanks to the various bondage techniques, do not get boring even for advanced users. Knowing the rope and the knots is absolutely crucial in bondage sex.

Here we have put together a few simple knotting techniques as a PDF for you: Small knot gauge.

Classically, jute and hemp ropes are used for bondage. Since ropes made of these natural materials first have to be made supple before they can be used for the first time, nowadays cotton ropes are increasingly being used, which are ready for immediate use. Under no circumstances should ropes made of plastic be used for tying up, as the friction can cause painful abrasions.

Tipp: All those who shy away from tying knots at first choose bondage ribbon tape instead of a classic rope. With this tear-resistant tape, individual body parts or the whole body can be tied up without the need for a knot. ๐Ÿ˜‰ If you liked it, we recommend attending a bondage course in the long term to learn the knots step-by-step – a rope is ultimately a bit more versatile and also makes hanging bondage figures possible.

Tips on rope thickness and rope length:

The thickness of the rope plays a crucial role in BDSM bondage. Usually, ropes with a diameter of about 7 millimeters are used for erotic bondage. With this rope thickness, the knots cannot be tightened too tightly and opening is also easier. This is very important in an emergency – if the partner is in pain and reports numbness in the body, they should always be freed from the bondage. It should be avoided at all costs to use ropes with a diameter of less than 6 millimeters, as these cause severe constriction.

The ropes are available in different lengths. Especially for beginners it is difficult to assess which length is suitable for which bondage game. As a guide:

  • Ropes up to 3 meters long are suitable for simple wrist or ankle restraints.
  • Ropes up to 7 meters long are suitable for tying up individual body parts such as arms, legs or chest.
  • Ropes longer than 10 meters are suitable for advanced users. With them, full-body restraints can be implemented.

BDSM restraints for advanced users

Ankle and wrist restraints are great for beginners, but advanced users want more! At a higher level, the demand increases. Several body parts are then gladly connected to one another or completely tied up. Anyone who has been dealing with BDSM restraints for a long time will sooner or later come across the bondage figures “Hogtie” or “Frogtie”. In these figures, the hands are tied to the feet – this completely restricts the freedom of movement of the tied partner and he is completely at the mercy. A corresponding bondage harness is suitable for this position, in which handcuffs and ankle cuffs are connected with chains.

Advanced users also like to use handcuffs, which are also connected to a collar. In combination with a gag and an eye mask, the bound partner is strongly influenced in his perception and orientation. In order to underline the dominance between sub and dom in role-playing games, couples from the BDSM area also use collars in combination with a leash as an erotic bondage.

BDSM restraints: alternatives from the home

Are you curious about bondage, but don’t have the right restraints at home? – No problem! Beginners can use simple cords from the household to test whether bondage is fun and brings new joy. Ties, bed sheets, leather belts, long stockings or tied shoelaces are also suitable as bondage restraints. Cling film can also be used for erotic bondage. With it, your partner’s mobility can even be completely restricted by wrapping him up like a mummy – but be careful: Leave out the head, otherwise there is a risk of suffocation.

Caution should also be exercised with nylons, cable ties, cables, fishing line and metal wires. These should never be used on the body, as they constrict the skin and are difficult to open again. The constriction of body parts can lead to serious injuries!

Bondage Accessories

Restraints, gags and ropes form the basis of every bondage game. But that’s not all – if your partner is tied up, it’s about driving him crazy with different toys. This can be done in a soft or hard way. Beginners like to use feathers and soft whips to awaken their partner’s senses on the erogenous zones.

If you already have your first bondage games behind you, it can also be interesting to go into a little more detail. Bed restraints, for example, are particularly suitable for this. They give the tied person less room to move and play than with conventional erotic restraints. So he is a whole lot more at the mercy of the dominant part than with normal restraints. But a bit of tact is required here, because tying up is a bit more complex than the mere clicking of handcuffs. ๐Ÿ˜‰

In the BDSM scene it gets harder. In role-playing games between dom and sub, there is punishment as well as bondage. Popular games are the so-called spanking – working with whips, cane, paddle or crop – and the bastinado – hitting the feet. With paddles, nipple clamps, clitoral clamps and stimulation current devices, the partner is made compliant – how far you go depends on prior agreements and individual needs. However, at this level, bondage is practiced exclusively with a safe word.

Bondage can be operated with simple means. However, if you like this type of game, the equipment should be a little more professional. A lot can be tried out with simple, high-quality restraints – but if you want to go in the direction of Shibari and also learn how to artistically bind erotic body parts, you will be best advised to take an on-site course to learn the knots. No matter how you do it: Always remember that the safety of everyone involved has priority and that trust plays a central role in addition to a safe word and the right choice of restraints. That’s why it’s important that you and your partner take it slow and gradually approach the big topic of BDSM restraints together.

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