In recent years, more and more straight men are discovering the joys of anal intercourse – and that it doesn’t have to have anything to do with homosexuality. Nevertheless, anal sex is still a taboo subject, not only for women. However, there is no reason to. Because it doesn’t matter whether you’re a man or a woman, nothing is as intense and exciting as anal stimulation. There are numerous nerve endings on the anus in particular, which give you incredible feelings of pleasure. But the prostate, which is referred to as the P-spot or male G-spot, can also be stimulated during anal satisfaction and sometimes even lead to orgasm. But to really enjoy anal intercourse, you should try it with a partner you trust. Because without trust you cannot really relax and enjoy these breathtaking feelings.
But trust me – with a little sensitivity and empathy, anal sex will become an integral part of your lovemaking in the future. In order to take away men’s fear of the “first time buttocks”, I have a few small tips for you here, so that you can lovingly and gently spoil your loved one with anal sex in the future – I wish you every success with the application.
Anal sex – with a sure instinct to reach an orgasm
Anal sex for the first time is incredibly exciting. However, many cramp and fear the possible pain. But anal sex is not that complicated. Anyone who has ever enjoyed anal pleasure can no longer do without it!
In order to take away your partner’s fear of anal sex, you should start with small steps. Because you now have the great responsibility to be empathetic and sensitive and to approach his prostate with the necessary preparation. The most important rule is that you should never rush into anything. His anus is very sensitive and requires delicacy in anal stimulation. Therefore, the right preparation is important. We recommend the following procedure:
Satisfy man anally: preparation
- It is important for the first anal adventure that the partner can relax without having to worry about whether any discomfort could arise. Anal douches are suitable for this, to take away any doubts. This ensures clean enjoyment right from the start.
- Then rub your hands warmly so that he can relax and not get a cold shock when you touch his anus.
- Make the first contact by gently placing your hands on his bottom. This is how you build closeness and give him trust so that he feels safe and can let himself go.
- Then you can start massaging his buttocks.
- Now slide gently down towards your thighs and lightly stroke the transitions from buttocks to legs – that alone will drive him crazy.
- Then you stroke gently up to his tailbone, over his anus and then back again.
Satisfy man anally: This is how it goes on
Once you have guided him through the preparation, the actual enjoyment of anal satisfaction can then begin:
- If you notice that your partner is slowly relaxing and feeling comfortable, you can spoil him with a tender prostate massage. First deal with his perineum – the area between the testicles and the anus.
- You can either get him in the mood by tenderly stroking and squeezing his perineum or with gentle kisses. Of course you can also kiss his anus and already slightly advance with your tongue to prepare him for the upcoming anal stimulation. How far you really go is up to you.
- Now you can slowly advance to the center or the anus: Let some massage oil run into his buttocks, oil your hands and let your fingers slide alternately from top to bottom and back through the crack.
- When you’ve gotten that far, you can gently pull his buttocks apart and draw tender circles over his anus with your finger – this relaxes the tissue and makes him really hot and loose.
- As soon as you notice that he likes your touch, you can first insert your little finger into him. But please make sure that your nails are trimmed, otherwise you could injure him.
- Does he like that? Then try to insert your index finger into him – if he also feels erotic pleasure and wants more, then you can insert your thumb in the last step and stimulate him with it.
- Now you can slowly approach the climax by gently circling your finger back and forth, feeling the inner walls and applying gentle pressure. You can find the male G-spot – the prostate or P-spot – by looking for a slightly rougher area to the south. Leave your finger there for a while, then move it back and forth. Apply light pressure and see how he responds.
- In addition, you can stimulate him with the other hand on the penis or continue to gently massage his perineum. If you’re lucky, you can trigger an orgasm in him very quickly that will surprise even him.
Advanced sex toys
Once your partner has found pleasure in anal sex, he probably can’t get enough of it. To ensure that your anal sex remains something special, there are numerous ways to make your lovemaking as exciting as possible. From anal plugs to prostate vibrators – there is a suitable sex toy for everyone. When using sex toys, always make sure to always use enough lube to facilitate insertion and ease of movement. There is even a special anal lubricant for this purpose, which glides particularly well and lasts a long time:
Even if you’ve had some experience with anal sex, you should still start with small sex toys and work your way up. Erotic anal plugs are suitable for the beginning to really stimulate your partner. They are also available in different sizes and designs. Depending on how your partner would like his prostate stimulated, you can insert the appropriate plug with sufficient lubricant. For example, he can wear it during lovemaking and experience indescribably intense feelings of pleasure.
If that’s not enough for you, you can also try anal dildos. These are much larger than anal plugs and sometimes very similar to a real penis. So your partner gets the feeling of real anal sex.
But that’s not all – to make the prostate massage as intense as possible and to stimulate your partner’s prostate, there are numerous anal vibrators for prostate massage that will literally drive your partner crazy. Insert the prostate vibrator very gently and slowly so that your partner can get used to the size. Most vibrators have different levels of intensity. Start with the easiest level first. If you notice that your partner likes the stimulation using vibrations, you can increase the intensity from level to level. With sex toys, every love game becomes a very special pleasure!
Tipp: If you’re not ready to try anal sex with your partner, you can try it alone first. Also start with your fingers and then try your way through the numerous sex toys. Always use enough lubricant! If you know exactly what you like and don’t like, anal sex with your partner will be much easier and more pleasurable.
Conclusion: anal sex for men
Whether man or woman, anal sex should no longer be a taboo subject. Because more and more men are enjoying anal intercourse and enjoy the incredibly intense feelings of pleasure.
Whether a conventional prostate massage with your hands or anal stimulation with a suitable sex toy – anal sex ensures indescribable orgasms and highlights during lovemaking. With a little instinct and the right partner at your side, you don’t need to be afraid of pain or other inconveniences.
Enter the world of anal stimulation and discover new forms of orgasm that will surprise even you!
Video: The prostate – joy & sorrow
Urologist Volker explains why joy and suffering are so close to each other when it comes to the prostate: