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It’s the same for many couples: the longer you’ve been in a relationship, the greater the likelihood that sex life will become monotonous and lose its excitement and spontaneity over time. In the beginning, couples still have passionate and uninhibited sex several times a week, if not every day. But over time, lovemaking loses momentum and excitement. Many couples are busy with work, hobbies and friends, leaving their partner neglected. In a long-term relationship, sex always takes place in the same position, routinely and without much creativity. Of course you adjusted to your partner after a certain time. Knows the partner’s favorite position, the position with which she comes best and he also has his fun at the same time. There is nothing wrong with that either. But after a while, it can get tiring and boring—and boring sex often results in the sex itself becoming less frequent and lacking in spontaneity. But it doesn’t have to be that way – there are countless ways to seduce your partner and bring more momentum and passion back into your sex life.

Many couples are aware that they should bring more eroticism and passion into their sex life. But most of the time there is not enough time besides all the stress of everyday life. When you get home, you still have to do all sorts of household chores and you spend the last hour before falling asleep in front of the television, tired and exhausted, so that there is no strength left for uninhibited and passionate sex. Many couples end up arranging sex. Time is then taken once a week to get close to the partner in the evening. So you have the opportunity to have sex at least on fixed dates. But this, of course, is not the maximum of a passionate love. Sometimes in a relationship you have to set your priorities differently.

Spontaneous sex in particular provides more variety and momentum in the relationship. When a couple manages to make time for sex despite the stress of everyday life – be it in the morning, during lunch break or in the evening after work – then the relationship reaches a new level of passion and intensity.
However, the prerequisite is that you actually get involved and don’t find any excuses why you don’t have time for sex.

It’s the little things that count

If you only talk about everyday problems like finances and housework all day, it is understandable that the sexual desire does not exactly increase. That’s why you should also make the little things in everyday life sexual in order to create more erotic tension in the relationship.

Write shady messages

Couples should therefore be in the mood for each other throughout the day. Be it through spontaneously suggestive messages at work or through compliments and erotic remarks after work. For example, you can write sleazy messages to your partner about how much you are looking forward to seeing her and what you would like to do with her when you get home. Or you compliment her on how incredibly sexy she looks in her work clothes and how seductive she smells. When you are at home, you should first take care of yourself before you start household chores.

Create erotic moments

Cook dinner together – meanwhile you can spontaneously hug your partner from behind, kiss her gently on the neck and whisper dirty things in her ear. This is how you increase their lust so that dinner becomes a minor matter. You can also take a hot bath together to relax instead of spending the evening in front of the TV. So you get very close again and have an erotic and spontaneous experience in the bathtub. If you get up at similar times, you can shower together in the morning. You don’t necessarily have to have sex, it’s more about starting the day together with your partner, getting closer, kissing and exchanging some intimacy. But of course there’s nothing wrong with a quick number in the shower. 😉 On the contrary, you have an exciting start to the day full of love and passion. Then you look forward to seeing your partner all the more after work.

Sex is a matter of the mind

Especially in women, sexual desire arises in the head. If they experience a lot of stress at work or still have a lot to do around the house, women often don’t get any rest after work. With so much chaos in your head, it’s understandable that the desire for sex fades away. Sex is created in women’s heads – if a woman is still thinking about other things from everyday life, she cannot fully devote herself to sex. Therefore, men should try to take the stress out of their partner when she comes home. If you expect a woman in a dirty apartment, where your food is still lying around and you sit in front of the laptop and gamble without a shower, she feels more annoyed by you than attracted to you at the moment. Of course, when she sees it like that, she doesn’t feel like having spontaneous sex.

Erotic massage for relaxation

You can take the chaos out of your partner’s head by helping her around the house, listening to her when she comes home, relaxing her, and giving her your attention. This is how she feels you perceive her and feels close to you again. Let her come home after a hard day at the office.
To relax, you can then spontaneously start massaging her neck and kissing her softly. Gradually you can then work your way along her body. Massage her back, caress her breasts, arms and legs. If she likes it, you can then feel your way down. Stroke her bottom, start massaging it and then work your way forward into the intimate area. If the opportunity arises, you can also use massage oil – preferably with a relaxing scent – this will ensure that you increase her lust and desire for you and that spontaneous and exciting sex will occur. When you get close again, you will have more energy for the rest of the things that still need to be done in the household.

Sexy lingerie for a hot look

Would you also like to do something good for your partner? Then surprise him spontaneously in an irresistible lingerie. Buy sexy suspenders, a lace lingerie set with erotic details or just wear nothing but sexy panties. No matter how tired your partner may be, at the sight of your seductive sight he will immediately want to attack you. Fabrics that flatter your curves, seductive cuts and cut-outs – sexy lingerie will turn men’s heads and make their pulses beat faster. This stimulates your partner’s fantasies so that he wants to unpack you as soon as possible. Wild and passionate sex is guaranteed, because with a sexy outfit every woman becomes a seductress.

  • Babydoll with string made of powernet and lace - black-pink

    Babydoll with thong made of powernet and lace

  • Mini dress with lace plus thong - red

    Mini dress with lace and thong

  • Babydoll with string made of powernet and lace - black-pink

    Babydoll with thong made of powernet and lace

  • Mini dress with lace plus thong - red

    Mini dress with lace and thong

sex in a public place

If you want it to be even more exciting and erotic, you can also have sex in public. If you go out to dinner together, forget your underwear at home. Whisper it erotically in your partner’s ear and you will see how his lust increases immeasurably. Or you let him feel that you are not wearing panties by spontaneously putting his hand under your skirt and letting him feel your excitement. If the restaurant toilet is understandably too risky for you, you can quickly make love to your partner in the car after dinner – it couldn’t be more spontaneous. But you can also go shopping in an empty changing room and get close to each other for a moment – forbidden things are known to be the most tempting. You shouldn’t have sex in the changing room, you should only get in the mood for more through erotic touching and kissing. This makes sex later in the bedroom even more fun and you can hardly wait to go home.

Sex toys enrich sex life

If you are up for a little adventure, you should definitely try sex toys. If your sex life has fallen asleep and you only go through the standard program, then sex toys are just right for you. You can surprise your partner spontaneously with a vibrator and spoil her with every trick in the book. Or you can venture straight into sex toys for couples, so you can both have fun and get as close as you’ve ever been. Sex toys come in all shapes and colors. You can always try out different models and get new insights into the world of eroticism. So you can experience high points together with your partner and bring more excitement, passion and eroticism into your sex life.

  • Massagestab Double Massager - lila

    Massagestab Double Massager

  • Pulsator Womanizer Liberty - white-pink

    Pulsator Womanizer Liberty

  • Double vibrator from Best Mate - black

    Double vibrator from Best Mate

  • Massagestab Double Massager - lila

    Massagestab Double Massager

  • Pulsator Womanizer Liberty - white-pink

    Pulsator Womanizer Liberty

  • Double vibrator from Best Mate - black

    Double vibrator from Best Mate

Spontaneous sex: our conclusion

In long-term couples, it often happens that sex becomes monotonous and boring. Many couples even arrange to have sex, otherwise it will be completely neglected. But if you really want it, you can take enough time for your loved one to bring more momentum and passion back into your sex life. Be it, for example, an erotic massage, a shared bath, sexy lingerie or naughty sex toys – with a few tips you can have more fun with spontaneous sex and discover a new side to your partner.

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