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This is how you become a lusty vibrator expert

Not sure how to use a vibrator? Never tried a sex toy? That’s totally fine, and it inspires me to be able to help you take your masturbation games to the next level!

Before you begin, it’s important to know how to use a vibrator in the best possible way. It’s definitely not as easy as picking up an old toy, charging it up and pressing the power button.

If you’ve never bought one before, how do you know which type to go for? How do you use vibrators during sex, or how do you get your partner to? And how, where and when should you use them to make them feel great?

Lovehoney’s sex expert Annabelle Knight explains how to use a vibrator really, really well.

How to use a vibrator

The first thing to realize is that sex toys are a regular part of many couples’ sexual routines these days.

Using a vibrator doesn’t mean your sex life is inadequate. Therefore, your partner’s fear of inadequacy should be the first item on your list.

Using a vibrator is a fun way to reaffirm your trust in each other. It makes you more open, intimate and confident in dealing with each other’s bodies.

The Broad City babes certainly know how to use a vibrator

How to find the right vibrator

Everyone is different and you need to find a vibrator that works for your body. There are different types to choose from and it can certainly be intimidating if you’re not sure where to start.

bullet vibrators

A great beginner vibrator is the love balls – these are small, powerful vibrators used primarily for clitoral stimulation. Due to their petite size and user-friendly shape, bullet vibrators are a good choice for a step-in vibrator. They are also very discreet, quiet and cheap.

The Rocks Off Bamboo bullet vibrator is one of the best, and it’s super affordable. It has 10 speed settings and pattern settings (where most standard bullet vibrators only have one) is top notch for targeted stimulation. Basically, it’s cheap and feels really good. The only disadvantage? It uses batteries…

vibrator guide

Rocks Off Bamboo 10 function bullet vibrator

Rocks Off

Vibro No

If you’re willing to spend a little more for a slightly higher quality rechargeable bullet vibrator, the Desire Vibro ei is a big step up. It has 17 vibration patterns and three intensities, is USB rechargeable and comes with a storage pouch to keep the toy clean and safe.

rocks off vibrator

Desire Luxury rechargeable bullet vibrator

Lovehoney Desire

The rabbit vibrator is known to bring women and people with vaginas into what is known as a “mixed orgasm” (ie, an orgasm that occurs when two erogenous zones are stimulated at the same time, such as the clitoris and the G-spot).

If you have never tried a rabbit vibro before, I would recommend going for a cheaper and smaller option. The Happy Rabbit vibrators aren’t too intimidating in size, with an insertable length of just 4 inches.

rabbit vibrators

Happy Rabbit rechargeable mini rabbit vibrator

Happy Rabbit

If you want to take your rabbit vibrator up a notch, the Happy Rabbit Thrusting vibrator is a popular choice. Besides what all other rabbit vibros do, he also thrusts into you and mimics IRL penetration. It has a whopping 15 vibration modes, is basically silent and waterproof so you can use it in the bath or shower without any issues.

happy rabbit

Happy Rabbit Thrusting Realistic Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator

Happy Rabbit

Classic vibrators are those with a traditional waveform and a significantly tapered end. Best suited for first experiments is Lovehoney’s Silencer Whisper Vibrator.

Classic vibrators only focus on internal vibrations. They don’t vibrate against your clitoris or G-spot at the same time like other vibrators do. If you consider that the majority of women and people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm, classic vibrators are not necessarily the most successful.

Massage sticks are another favorite. Famed as the ultimate orgasm tool, these originally originated from neck massagers designed to soothe tired muscles. Until women discovered how perfect the powerful vibrations were for clitoral stimulation.

If you want something smaller, or are on a tighter budget, Lovehoney’s mini wand vibrators make a good starter toy.

magic wand vibrators

Lovehoney 3-Speed Micro Zauberstab Vibrator

Lovehoney

For those looking for something more advanced, there’s the Doxy Wand. This is the godfather of all wand vibrators. According to sex toy bloggers and other experts, this is the absolutely unique and ultimate vibrator. A sophisticated and serious piece of machinery, manufactured in Cornwall, South West England.

Seriously, it’s really great.

Lovehoney 3-Speed Micro Zauberstab Vibrator

Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Stab Vibrator

DOXY

G-spot vibrators

G-spot vibrators are bent up at the end to reach the inner front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located. A surprising number of women do not know their G-spot. This is a huge loss. It is definitely worth looking for, finding and exploring the G-spot. Not sure where and how?

Don’t worry, once you spot it, you’ll never forget it!

For a more budget option, the Tracey Cox Supersex G-spot vibrator isn’t bad at all. It requires batteries, which is a little fidgety and a bit annoying, but for the price, it’s a great beginner’s G-spot toy.

Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Stab Vibrator

Tracey Cox Supersex G-Punkt Vibrator

Tracey Cox

For just a little more, the Desire Luxury G-spot vibrator is worth it. It has 12 levels of adjustable intensity and is made from really soft, velvety-feeling silicone that glides against the skin. It also comes with a storage case and you can charge the toy discreetly inside the case.

Tracey Cox Supersex G-Punkt Vibrator

Desire Luxury Rechargeable G-Punkt Vibrator

Lovehoney Desire

You can do this by simply choosing your desired vibration pattern and speed. Then apply some lube to make the thing nice and slippery and then move the vibrator around the clitoris and labia. Until you find the spot and method of stimulation that feels best. This is a slightly more basic, but extremely pleasurable approach to orgasming with a vibrator.

To take it to a higher level:

Use the vibrator anywhere

Sure, it seems small on the surface, but you’d be surprised at just how much variation there is in the clitoris. Especially since below the surface it actually extends around the labia. As you become more experienced, you can achieve a fantastic level of precision with a good vibrator.

Some women say that one side of their clitoris is more sensitive than the other. Others prefer to stimulate somewhere above or below. If you are particularly sensitive, you can also try it outside the labia. By covering the clitoris, the vibrations are slightly deadened, giving you a slower build-up to orgasm.

Try angling the vibrator

As you get used to your vibrator, you can try some really exciting techniques like edging. This is the practice of approaching the “edge” of orgasm, but not letting yourself tip all the way over it. You do this multiple times until you reach a super elevated state of arousal where even the slightest touch will make you explode. Sound like fun? Well, it’s even more fun with a good vibro.

Try angling the vibrator

Try all the different settings

Toys have become very sophisticated and come with a whole range of different settings for different users. From shy newbies who enjoy the gentlest vibrations to battle-hardened vibro veterans who need concrete hammer power to get airborne. Definitely worth trying every pattern and speed setting. You might discover a sensation you didn’t even know existed!

Use the vibrator with your partner

Some of your sexual partners may find this intimidating. So make them relax by using the vibrator on them first. If your partner is a man or male person, try the nipples, chimes, or the sensitive frenulum, just below the head of the penis.

By the way, a couple vibrator can also be used like a bullet to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse without getting in the way.

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