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If you were to ask me which is one of the most frequently asked questions about sexuality, I would definitely put one question at the top: What is the difference between a clitoral and vaginal orgasm? There are so many different things about a few questions that you have read or heard somewhere at some point. I can say one thing about this: Not everything you read or hear about the question of the climax is correct. Because even in science, the question is controversial. But first things first…

Orgasm = vaginal orgasm?

Most people probably think of a vaginal orgasm when they talk about a woman’s climax. It is imagined to be caused by penetration through the penis. The woman experiences a flight of feelings and physical sensations. In reality, it’s just not quite that simple. Because in most cases women get a clitoral orgasm. If there is such a thing as a vaginal orgasm, only a small percentage of women are capable of achieving it. The numbers vary between every third to fourth woman.

Myth of vaginal orgasm

But what does “if it should exist” even mean? The vaginal orgasm is considered one of the biggest myths that still exist, at least in science and among researchers. From a scientific point of view, the vaginal orgasm has not really been proven. There are far fewer nerve endings in the vagina than in the clitoris that can transmit stimulating stimuli to the brain. So the vagina is far less sensitive to touch and other stimulation than the clitoris.

Freud only guesses

But where does the knowledge about the vaginal orgasm actually come from? It comes from one of the greatest psychologists who ever lived – Sigmund Freud. Freud distinguished between woman’s maturity in vaginal and clitoral orgasm. According to Freud, only women arrested at an infantile stage of development were able to experience clitoral climax. Women who have reached female maturity, on the other hand, get vaginal orgasms, according to Freud. These statements form the origin of the vaginal orgasm. Today, however, it is clear that Freud was wrong in his assumptions. A majority of all women experience clitoral orgasms. Furthermore, Freud formulated his theory without conducting any anatomical studies or experiments.

Clitoral orgasm is becoming more popular

In the 1950’s, G-Spot researcher and doctor Ernst Gräfenberg came up with the idea that there is a gland at the back of the G-Spot that influences vaginal orgasm. He saw her as the female prostate. Later, however, it became clear that this “gland” is a small tip of the clitoris. Then, in the 1960s, researchers Masters and Johnson found that women climax almost exclusively in the clitoris. The vaginal orgasm was thus more or less obsolete from a scientific point of view.

Experiences with vaginal climax

However, there are also women who deny that they only come clitorally. Many claim that they could come differently and justify this with a different feeling than clitoral orgasm. I find it striking how many women, based on their practical experience, do not consider the scientific opinion to be at least debatable. (If you have had other experiences, feel free to share them in the comments). In conclusion, the vaginal orgasm is not biologically proven, but many women at least claim to have experienced it.

Try vaginal orgasm

If you are one of those women who have not yet experienced a vaginal orgasm, it is very important not to force it and put yourself under pressure to do so. That would be sort of a guarantee that you won’t reach him. If you want to try out a bit, sex toys are ideal for this. You can control them precisely within the vagina and decide for yourself whether you want them to vibrate (a vibrator is best for this, of course) or whether you prefer thrusting movements – for example with a dildo. You can also choose the size and thickness of the sex toy. Some women like the feeling of being completely filled, others find toys that are too big painful. The best thing to do is to try it out for yourself! Pay attention to your excitement and your feelings!

The clitoral climax

In contrast to the vaginal orgasm, the clitoral orgasm is very well documented and extensively researched. There is no doubt that a very large proportion of all women experience clitoral orgasms regularly, or at least are able to do so. Few here have orgasm problems or anorgasmia. Therefore, the clitoris should also be stimulated regularly during sexual intercourse with the partner, as this makes an orgasm more likely. Various finger sleeves with knobs or lay-on vibrators are suitable for this, for example. During sex itself, it regularly happens that you rub your pelvis on the outer glans of the clitoris in the heat of the moment.

Anatomy of the clitoris

The clitoris (also known as “the tickler”) is located in the vagina at the top of the two labia, where they meet. Slightly hidden under a small foreskin, the clitoris can be felt when the woman is aroused. It feels like a small soft pearl. With stimulation and increasing desire, it becomes harder because, like the penis, it partly consists of erectile tissue. However, this small pearl does not make up the entire clitoris. As many don’t know, has two stalks that run in an inverted V from the glans of the clitoris (better known as the pearl) and swell when aroused. They lie inside the vagina. So the clitoris reaches a size of about 11 cm! It is best to stimulate the exposed glans of the clitoris when you are aroused.

Anatomy of the clitoris - functional drawing

This is the best way to touch the clitoris

If you are one of those women who very rarely experience an orgasm, you should start by taking a closer look at your clitoris. Which kind of stimulation do you like the most and which touches get you less excited? That should be clarified for now. Lube is helpful in self-awareness, as touching a dry clitoris can feel uncomfortable. If you want to go further, it is best to use lay-on vibrators such as the Womanizer. It has proven to be one of the wonders of orgasm and is extremely popular with many women. If you prefer clitoral and vaginal stimulation because you like that better, I definitely recommend a vibrator with a clitoral stimulator. Make sure that it has several vibration levels so that you can test exactly whether you prefer faster or slower or lighter or more intensive touches.

Watch your clitoris!

So the clitoris plays a crucial role in both sex and masturbation! She shouldn’t be overlooked when it comes to pleasing a woman (unless she wants it that way). And if you think your friend sees things differently, feel free to send him this text. Many men still think sex is all penis and vagina and penetration. Especially during foreplay you can include the clitoris very well during sex! This text here should broaden your horizons and help you as a partner. 😉 The next orgasm should not be long in coming!

Sources: Psychology Today article & study

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