From small orgasms to big ones: how I learned to be more orgasmic - Vibrators |  August 2022

From small orgasms to big ones: how I learned to be more orgasmic – Vibrators | August 2022

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To take away: A few months ago I had my first orgasm. Now, thanks to more sex and a more powerful vibrator, I’m onto bigger and better orgasms.

You may remember my story of finding my first orgasm with the Sola Egg Massager. I am a 31 year old married woman with children and – until recently – very limited experience with sex toys.

A bit more of an update. Since working with Sola’s resident sex educator, Ducky Doolittle, to increase my orgasmic potential, I enjoyed my very first orgasm (and a few more!), gained some confidence, and even made love with my husband more often (he’s pumped!) Now, a few months later, I’ve already gotten my second sex toy – and more lessons from Ducky on how to increase my orgasmic potential. Or, as Ducky likes to say, how to have a worst ass orgasm. Very well then. I’m in.

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Tout d’abord, Bigger, Better & hellip; Boom

When Ducky set me up with my first toy, the Sola Egg Massager Passion Set, I had my first orgasm. Well, I was thrilled. But it was small. A little baby orgasm. According to Ducky, the next step is to better recognize my arousal and response cycle and strengthen the orgasmic pathways I have built. When it comes to orgasm, the practice seems perfect. This time, Ducky recommends trying a powerful wand massager called Sola Sync Pleasure Wand.

Unboxing Sola Sync

Being somewhat new to all this sex toy, I was a little intimidated – to say the least – unboxing the Sola Sync. The toy is big and purple and looks like someone cut off a Teletubby’s forearm and put it in a box!

Is it just me or does it look like a Teletubby arm

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So why a big old vibrator like this? And why a vibrator?

& ldquo; It takes about 20 minutes for the average woman to orgasm from just rubbing her clitoris, & rdquo; Ducky says. & ldquo; When you add a vibrator into the mix, that comes down to four to six minutes. ‘

The point of using a vibrator for someone like me who has trouble reaching orgasm is to help focus that focus on the right areas in the best possible way.

So does that mean I can’t cum without it, I wonder?

Ducky says the old myth just isn’t true. Although our bodies can get used to the orgasmic superpowers of a vibrator, it’s just because our brains love doing the work. If I find I can’t orgasm any other way, I can always switch things up to teach my brain that my brothers aren’t a one trick pony.

We’ll get to my experience with this vibe in a minute, but I’ll say it up front: the Sola Sync delivers an orgasm in three minutes flat. Each. Single. Time.

On the way to school O

Here’s the thing: According to Ducky, I may have never really learned to masturbate.

& ldquo; Sex education is often riddled with incorrect or incomplete information, which means most people are completely self-taught, never having even been given the tools to know how to learn it. This leads to many errors, which can be very discouraging & rdquo; Ducky explains. “ A lot of people never get past that. Others know there is something more, but just don’t know how to go about it. It is important to remember that this is a process and the first steps in this process involve becoming familiar with your own needs. ”

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In order to improve my sexual response cycle, according to Ducky, I need to learn to recognize it. So she gave me a bit of schooling every step of the way. It goes like this:

Stage 1: The excitement phase
This is when you start to experience erotic feelings. Your vagina begins to secrete lubricant. Your genitals may feel full or tight as they fill with blood.

Step 2: The plateau phase
Your skin may become blotchy or red from increased blood flow during excitement. Your genitals, legs, and stomach may experience feelings of tension or heaviness. Ducky says this stage can be uncomfortable for people, especially if she doesn’t achieve a release or orgasm. Good to know.

Stage 3: The Orgasmic Phase
This is the one everyone is aiming for, right? The thing is, Ducky says it can feel different every time, so it’s best not to set expectations on how it’s going to turn out. Instead, I should just let go and enjoy the experience.

With my first crack on a vibrator – and an orgasm – I definitely felt it down to my feet. It was tiny, but it was To be. Now, armed with more knowledge and a more powerful tool, I set out to see what more my body could do.

Get stronger (orgasms)

Because one of the big goals for me is to learn how to have stronger orgasms, the first step is to strengthen my orgasmic muscles in the pelvic floor. The stronger the muscles, the stronger the orgasm.

So, I dutifully did my Kegel exercises to get these babies back in shape. Ducky also gave me some tips on how to push myself as I get closer to orgasm, including:

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  • Tense my legs, stomach, and feet deliberately when they start to tense on their own
  • Doing Kegel exercises while using my toy
  • Letting go and playing an orgasm
  • To tease me
  • Changer ma respiration
  • Wear a sexy nightgown or lingerie
  • Fantasize

There is so much masturbation reading that a person can do. Armed with all the knowledge I could muster, it was time to test out the Sola Sync and flex my newfound muscles.

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Did I mention this thing is powerful? The first time I used it, I simply lay down in bed and placed it near my clitoris, then played around with different vibration settings. Suddenly I found THE ONE. It literally made me cry. With tears streaming from my eyes, I climaxed surprisingly quickly. It also lasted a little longer than expected considering how quickly it happened!

But when I do something, I take it seriously. So I have used this toy more than once. In fact, I used it a lot. More than I’ll admit here. (Let’s just say that even though it has a really long battery life, I managed to drain it pretty quickly.) Anyway, on subsequent attempts with the Sola Sync, I did something Ducky recommended specifically for this toy: go & ldquo; face down & rdquo; above. This is another thing I had never even heard of or considered. So I tried it. All I can say is that it’s a good thing to have a sex educator to give me advice like this. I reached three orgasms in one session. For someone who had never had an orgasm before in their life, this is great news. I had to change my sheets! I’m usually someone who needs lube for sex, but this makes me think I better bring this toy into some future action with my partner.

All I can say is that it’s a good thing to have a sex educator to give me advice like this. I reached three orgasms in one session.

I also make sure this toy is charged at all times. When he died midterm and I had to finish the job with something else, I was very disappointed.

My journey (orgasmic)

I’m not a nympho yet, but I’ve gone from never having an orgasm in my life to getting the job done in three minutes flat. I also own a few sex toys and have sex with my husband more often. Ducky likes to use the word “badass” to describe my progress. And you know what? Maybe I am. She’s definitely right about a lot of other things!

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